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01 JANUARY, 2006
Happy New Year (although we pagan-folk had ours back at the end of October, but hey...)
In the States, the neo-con Fascist bastards are not only perpetuating war and bloodshed for their own profits, they are attempting to FORCE women to become brood mares not only by their attempts to overturn Rove v. Wade, but by their ongoing war on a woman's right to contraceptives!! (Obviously, this is not an issue for women like Kaye and I - we're addressing those of you who are bisexual, curious hetero women, or men. But please, read on...)
Yes...we have heard of cases where a MARRIED, HETEROSEXUAL WOMAN was REFUSED her prescribed contraceptives by some self-righteous, patriarchal f---k of a pharmacist because of his damn twisted idea of "morality."
WHY are they doing this? ESPECIALLY since there are already over SIX BILLION humans on the planet? Do we REALLY need more?
The answer is obvious - these partriachal, cowardly alpha-male f--ks need soldiers to fight their wars for them. If women stop breeding, where are they going to get the cannon-fodder?
So...worst case scenario...you are a woman who has a husband or male lover...neither you nor he want to become parents...yet, the Christo-fascist partriarchy has outlawed abortion AND contraception. (Incidentally, I understand the Bible defines life as beginning with the first breath...I'm researching this. More later...) So...what to DO?!?!?
My question...who was your VERY FIRST lover?
If you're anything like me and most everyone else, your first lover was at the end of your arm.
If you have a working hand and five good, nimble fingers, you can have ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC SEX with NO RISK of pregnancy or (MUCH more important) STD's whatsoever.
I don't include oral sex here, for a couple of reasons. Although it is impossible to get pregnant through oral-genital contact, one still runs the risk of STD's.
More important though is, when I'm with my sweet lover, I adore having her mouth on mine. Those slow, deep kisses that last for hours - while gently exploring each other's intimate places with your hands - speaking as a lesbian, there's nothing better than that. At least for Kaye and I. We obviously can't speak for our sisters, but I'd bet most of them feel the same way. (The other element is the fact that she and I are still very much in love, which by itself is an incredible aphrodisiac - see the books reccomended below.)
Now... guys, I imagine if you'll get off your phallo-centric kick for a moment, open your minds to other possibilities (and trust your lady-love - I promise, if you've treated her right, she WILL be gentle), you will find this to be some of the most MIND-BLOWING sex you've ever had, free from the worries we mentioned earlier. And your lady-love will thank you for it.
For obvious reasons, I'm not going to suggest specific techniques. However, I can reccomend two excellent books on the subject - "How To Make Love To a Woman" by J and "How To Make Love To a Man" by M. They're out of print, but one should be able to find them in a used bookstore or possibly on Ebay. Guys, when reading the first book, pay special attention to the chapter on cunnilingus. Anything you can do with your tongue can also be done with fingers. Also the chapter on "The 'L' Word." It's nothing to be afraid of, you know.
Two things to DEFINITELY keep in mind, though - use a lubricant (NOT oil based, please - K-Y jelly is just fine), and for Goddess' sake, girls - KEEP THE FINGERNAILS SHORT!! The korporate patriarchy may be telling the public that "long, beautiful nails" are somehow sexy - but for reasons that should be apparent, you DO NOT want to engage in this type of lovemaking with long, sharp and potentially dangerous extrusions. Again - TRIM THOSE NAILS!!!!
All that said, I want to address another important issue.
This imperialistic bullshit MUST - STOP - NOW!!!!! These hyper-patriarchal alpha-male fucks in Washington D.C. are taking us to hell in the name of their Jesus-god (who seems to bear little resemblance to the first-century rabbi Yeshua ben-Yosef, and whose basic teachings and philosophy is held in high regard by many Wiccans). We women have the power to STOP IT - and actually, our heterosexual sisters have the most power of all.
The thing is, these alpha-male dominators believe they have a divine right to anything and everything within their field of vision. Their total sense of "self" is also completely tied up with their penises (no coincidence that "Limp" Dick Cheney got himself an artificial erection).
One name, girlfriends - one brave woman, whose example I call on every straight and bisexual woman to follow...
LYSYSTRADA.
Even though it's unlikely any of our gay brothers are looking at this website, just in case some of them are - I say this: if you have a lover who is one of those contradictory creatures known as a "log-cabin" Republican - a gay man who, for some twisted reason, goes along with this Neo-Con Christo-fascist agenda - DO LIKEWISE!
NO MORE SEX UNTIL THE SWORDS ARE BEATEN INTO PLOWSHARES, EVERY WORKING PERSON MAKES A DECENT, LIVABLE WAGE, EVERY PERSON IN THE STATES HAS ACCESS TO HEALTH CARE and THOSE KORPORATE WHOREMASTERS are STRIPPED OF PERSONHOOD!!
Otherwise, King George W, "Limp" Dick and the rest of those hateful, spiteful bastards and their brain-washed followers can go jerk themselves off.
Here's another thing you can do...PLEASE, PLEASE go here, read the petition, and sign!!
Here's to a happier 2006 C.E. for the REAL PEOPLE of the world...
- Jeanne
21 DECEMBER, 2005
Happy Winter Solstice! Merry Meet and Blessed Be!
Alright, now you know my "secret" (not much of a secret, really)...I am one of those Neo-Pagans your pastor warned you about. Not that I'm terribly observant, these days. Like Christians who go to church on Christmas and Easter, I will join a Circle on Samhain, Solstice and Beltane on occaision.
Kaye was raised (nominally) in the Anglican church, but has never been terribly religious (for reasons that should be obvious).
Nonetheless, we consider ourselves very spiritual people, and we raised P.J. (our daughter) to be spiritually aware.
What's the difference? Quite a bit, really. Someone (I think it was Thom Hartmann) said this:
"Religion is for people who are afraid of going to Hell. Spirituality is for people who have already been there."
There is a collorary to this statement (again, I'm not sure who said it):
"No grown-up can be another's disciple. Nothing that comes from without is real. Therefore, if you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him."
Here's the bottom line: THE GOD AND THE GODDESS DWELL WITHIN YOU, NOT IN "HEAVEN," NOT IN "PARADISE," NOT ON MOUNT OLYMPUS OR EVEN TIR-NAN-OG OR KOLOB, OR ANYWHERE ELSE.
What I'm seeing in the States and the Middle East these days is a group of Ultra-Patriarchal, Dominator Fucks who are fighting with all their might for KONTROL and COMPLETE MASTERY over EVERYTHING and EVERYONE. They justify this in the name of a "god - concept" (variously known as Yahweh, Adonai and Allah) who is supposed to be this All-Powerful, All-Mighty Father (no mother to speak of - more on that later) who bribes us to be "good" (meaning not to have sex and defer to the patriarchal aristocracy in all things) with promises of Heaven, and threatens us when we our "bad" (which apparently refers to all things "liberal") with Eternal punishment in Hell.
Like so much in the blood-soaked 10,000-year history of the Dominator Kapitalist Society, this is merely a reflection of Man (not Woman) and his selfish, phallo-centric desires.
I'll get to the point - the REAL difference between "Konservatives" and Liberals is this:
"Konservatives" believe that humans are, by nature, Evil, Lazy and Selfish, and need to be Tightly Kontrolled.
"Liberals" believe that humans are, by nature, Good, Hard-working and Decent, and are able to rule themselves.
While I lean far more to the "Liberal" position, I'm not sure that either point-of-view is completely accurate.
The conclusion I came to is this:
That which we call "God" and "Goddess" is essentially the Life-Force that inhabits everything in the universe - you, me, animals, plants, rocks, elements - you name it.
Each of us, at birth, receives a portion of this Life-Force. Because of the nature of this physical dimension, we are "fooled" into thinking we are separate from other beings and things. To my way of thinking, this explains elements of "reincarnation" and visions of "past lives" - if each of us are all part of the same Life-Force entity, it makes sense that we would have memories and "flashes" of other lives and experiences.
So - what happens when we die? To my thinking, we "go back into the soup" - rejoin with the primordial Life-Force.
Our existence continues after physical "death" - but we lose our "individuality." That which made each of us unique, I believe, is gone.
However - if you believe philosophers like Gautama Buddha and Marguerite Porete - what we gain is so much more than what we lose, we don't miss that "individual" existence.
Admittedly, this philosophy isn't perfect. It doesn't explain phenomena such as why we're so overwhelmingly drawn by some people and repelled by others. It doesn't tell me why Kaye and I feel as if we are "soul mates," or even defines that term.
I think more women are aware of this "interconnectedness" then men, however. Most men (but thank the Goddess, not all) have fed into this kultural disease called "patriarchal domination," which separates and compartmentalises everyone and everything - all to the benefit of the few at the expense of the many.
I heard the other day that the in some indigenous North American language, their word for capitalism actually translates as "cannibalism" - literally, to eat another's life.
This would seem to be a sad result of this illusion of "separateness," fed by a disease called "patriarchal domination," caused by addition to a drug called "power."
I admit to having smoked cannabis, and I've had a bit too much wine at one time or another. I knew when to stop and what to avoid, however.
When I was about 25 years old, I wound up at a party where people were snorting cocaine. Naturally, I was offered a couple of "lines."
I decided to try a little bit on my tongue, out of curiousity. Have you ever had a dentist shoot your mouth full of Novocaine? It tasted exactly like that.
Anyway, I politely refused. One of the girls said "Oh, come on, Jeanne! You'll love it!"
I was alone at the time - overweight (as I have been most of my life), unhappy, not experiencing a lot of success in my life. Damn right I'd love it! I knew myself well enough to know that I'd love it so much, it would probably destroy me.
Passing up that cocaine was probably one of the smartest decisions I'd ever made in my life.
It's a shame that men (and the occasional woman, though I don't really consider Condeleeza nor Hillary to be women) can't make that realisation about power.
Well - until next time, when I'll be discussing REBELLIOUS, SUBVERSIVE and NON-PROCREATIVE SEX! Can't get contraceptives? NO PROBLEM! Let a real dyke tell you how to have GREAT SEX without ANY DANGER of pregnancy or STDs (and these techniques work with partners of either gender)!
18 DECEMBER, 2005
This site was originally going to be strictly a showcase for erotic artistic and literary works that Kaye and I enjoy creating. Gradually, however, I find it becoming something more.
I suppose you could safely say that Kaye and I are like most couples who have been together for a long period of time. Goddess knows, I love her and can't imagine living life without her...but she does drive me up the wall sometimes. As I do her...
Hence this blog. I tend to rant and rave on various topics ranging from cuisine to geopolitics. A while back, I heard about a certain radio talk-show host from the States - one of those self-righteous, bigoted, right-wing "conservatives" who's constantly on about what he calls "family values" (which means gay-bashing, among other things. I guess the fact that Kaye and I have been together going on fifteen years and raised a daughter - who, incidentally, is heterosexual - doesn't count). I won't mention names, but it has come out that this oh-so-holy religious "family-oriented" Bushevik has authored a PORNOGRAPHIC NOVEL about teenage prostitutes and is a sexual predator to boot! (To learn more about this sleazy, hypocritical waste of DNA, go here.)
Well, when I heard about this, I was ready to go find him, rip his testicles off and stuff them down his throat!!
My darling Kaye...ever the voice of reason with her combination of Jamaican sensibilities and Tlingit patience ("Don't worry, girl, everything's eyrie...") sits me down...makes me take some deep breaths...serves me up some mint tea...and shares a bit of her unique wisdom.
"Honey," she says to me, "your problem is, you hold this shit inside you 'til it blows up." It's true - Kaye's the emotional one. She cries at the drop of hat, then laughs the next minute. She can get angry, but her fits are like summer rainstorms - dark, furious and quickly over. Me, on the other hand - I keep a tight lid on it...stew inside...and it builds and builds until I go off like one of those volcanoes we have up here in the Northwest.
"You need to blow off steam, darling," she says.
Hence...this blog. Chances are, it will get updated more often than the rest of the site, so check back frequently.
If you don't learn anything new, at least you'll get a few laughs.
- Jeanne